In a few days, 18 year old Jennifer (not her real name) will be leaving KBF – Nazareth Home. It has been her shelter and home for the past five months, providing her with counselling and a rehabilitative environment. A month ago, Jennifer gave birth to baby Eric (not his real name) and the past weeks have been all about nurturing her new baby. Now, the time has come to make a decision and it is always a most difficult and painful choice a woman has to make. For a biological mother, the raw pain of choosing to give up her child can stay with her for many years.
The term ‘giving up’ has always been synonymous with adoption and in the past may have given a negative connotation to this crucial decision. In reality, a woman does not ‘give up’ anything when choosing adoption for her baby. Instead, she has made the decision to give the special gift of choosing a life for her child that has the love, security, joy and stability of family life that she otherwise may not be able to give him.
Yet, even if the mother knows she is doing the right thing, it doesn’t mean that she loves her baby less or that the separation will hurt any less. For Jennifer, who was orphaned at a young age and has no close family to speak of, choosing adoption for baby Eric is placing him in the arms of an eternally grateful loving family that will spend the rest of their lives appreciating the gift that a special woman gave her.
Thank you, Jennifer.